Coherence & Congruence
Here are two long, underused words that start with C.
I have been coming across these words a lot recently; with clients; in discussions with coaches; in books. Taken together they mean arranging your thoughts, feelings, behaviours and actions consistently, logically and with a view to engage in meaningful activities.
Those seeking to achieve something need to stay on track. Aligning your thoughts and actions makes this easier.
Let me explain by example.
Have you ever felt you wanted to get something done but it is almost like things keep popping up in your way to make it difficult? Take the struggle to lose weight which is an ongoing process for many. It needs dedication, motivation, and focus. Someone who says they want to lose weight but don’t take any exercise, change diet and has a cupboard full of sugar is hardly coherent and congruent. What they say conflicts with what they do. They are making it harder for themselves to succeed. They are not aligning thoughts and actions.
Want to run a marathon? Have you got all your ducks in a row for it? Training, family support, nutrition, shoes, running partners, injury plan………
Clients of mine struggle with financial worries and stress. Some struggle with career worries. Being coherent and congruent can help with progress.
Say you keep getting into debt and are sick of the yo-yo ride in and out of the “red”, paying overdraft/credit card charges and so on. You have the goal clarified to eliminate this by a certain time but what do you need to change? Saying to yourself “I am sick of this and don’t want it any more” is not enough.
What do you need to organise to set yourself up for success? What to you need to eliminate, keep or increase to achieve this coherence and congruence? Does what you are doing make sense? Examples of ways to tackle this might include:
- Cutting up the credit card/leaving it at home
- Visiting your bank to rearrange direct debits to facilitate levelling of cashflow
- Looking at spending triggers and acting to ensure these are addressed
- Replace spending activity times with something else you are passionate about, but which doesn’t drain your wallet
- Look at budgeting and cash management to eliminate waste
- Get educated about the best way to deal with the problem
- Get help from others for the problem
All actions above are leading you to success. Name those actions. Going on long weekends to Las Vegas or getting a second credit card would be kind of the opposite to that, if you get my meaning.
I speak to a lot of people looking for new jobs. Many are clear in their heads on what they want. Many fails to align the ducks in a row though. The actions that make their path easier are absent. Being more coherent and congruent here might include examples like:
- Defining your pitch to convey your “message” for an employer
- Getting help on your CV to ensure it reflects & strengthens this message
- Keep growing your list of contacts who know what you are looking for
- Keep fit, rested and mentally prepared
- Cut down on alcohol
Coaching helps keep you on positive tracks to your goal, whatever it may be. It makes sense to spend time on getting things in order to ensure your path is easier.
Give me a call if you feel like discussing this further